He won’t let me go, so he must love me right??

I have heard this so many times from women who come to me for advice. In the midst of battling the reasons whether they should stay in their relationship or if it is time to walk away, they find comfort in believing that the man must love them because he refuses to bow out peacefully. Granted, there are many situations that the man is truly in love with the woman, but do not be fooled. A lot of times what has really happened is that you’re just too damn convenient and beneficial for this man to dare let you walk away. We all see women everyday who basically are the mothers to the men they are with, except sexual benefits are included. They take care of everything, carry the financial burden, and allow the man to get away with way too much. He can cheat on her, disrespect her and break her mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Yet, because he insists that he wants to be with you when you’re ready to leave you actually allow yourself to believe “he loves you”. If he really loved you, he wouldn’t do half the things, I just listed. He wouldn’t wait until you’re ready to leave to finally step up his game, because his heart would weigh heavy on him when he brought you to distress. A man who loves his woman cannot continuously watch his woman in pain and be ok with it. Some situations are not this extreme but the principle remains the same. He keeps you around and fights for you because you’re his meal ticket, and why let that go.


Love has nothing to do with it, and a woman needs to be honest with herself and not continue to feed herself a lie due to her fear of a failed relationship. At the end of the day I, nor does anyone else, have all the facts to your situation. So our opinions are somewhat limited. I do know somebody that does have all the facts, and that’s GOD. So when you’re in a situation where you really don’t know where you stand with your partner, lean on GOD’s guidance. Because believe me, that man can and will say whatever is necessary to keep his benefits going, but GOD will only tell you to do what is beneficial for YOU.

Its Finally Here!!.......Well kinda.

So I finally received the first copy of my book, and it looks very nice if I may say so myself : ). It feels good to get to this point because there were moments where I questioned if I would ever get this done. I knew for a long time that writing a book was something I should do and was blessed with the ability to make happen. Unfortunately the distractions of life, procrastination, and sometimes flat out laziness caused there to be a delay in making this happen. I'm here now though, and I'm proud but I'm not ready to celebrate. I didn't set out on this journey so I can simply say I did it. I took on this task because I truly believe its what GOD has called me to do, and I want to do what I can to improve to current state of relationships. Of course there is the money incentive that comes along with this, but I'm not worried about that because I know it will come. I just hope that I can reach a lot of people and contribute to making a difference. Making a lot of money without having a positive impact on society makes the money less valuable. Don't get me wrong, I'm still going to take the money (i have bills to pay people) but it wouldn't be as fulfilling.


With that said, if you have something your working on or has been an idea stuck in your head for a long time now, pray about it. If you feel GOD is telling you to do it, then its time to stop the excuses and make it happen. Don't let fear hinder you from accomplishing whatever it is you were called to do. If GOD signed of on it, then trust that its in your best interest to pursue it and it will be as successful as it needs to be.


You can look to order my book from my site Relationship Expert Stephan Labossiere in a couple of weeks. In the meantime, enjoy the blog and always feel free to leave me comments and feedback. Have a blessed day.

It Can Happen In Any Family

So I have decided to start a blog. I figured it was the best thing to do to help promote my upcoming book as well as give readers an opportunity to get to know me and my thoughts better. With that said, I wasn’t sure what I should make this first blog post about. So many options to choose from, but I decided I would make it about something I feel is extremely important and needs to be discussed more often: Sexual Abuse. I feel as if this is a major issue that happens a lot more than we realize. Studies show that 1 out of every 4 girls will be sexually abused before she turns 18. That’s not even including how often it happens on the male side. It is such an unfortunate thing, but we make it worse by not creating an environment that allows victims to speak out.


I personally have never been abused, but I have heard so many stories, and have met so many people that have unfortunately experienced this. We need to talk to each other and especially our children about this issue more often. We should not turn a blind eye and assume that this could never happen in your family. Studies show that more than 90% of the abusers are people the victim knows, loves, or trusts. Also, understand that this is not just about children. There are adults also being sexually abused, and this also is unfortunate and unacceptable. I don’t have the cure for this problem, but I do acknowledge that by talking more about the subject and being open to the idea that this can happen to anybody can help in possibly reducing the frequency of this crime. At the least it can help give victims the strength to speak out, thus beginning the healing process from this traumatizing experience. For more information on Sexual Abuse awareness you can go to www.darknesstolight.org and take a step towards educating yourself, your children, and your families on this very important issue.